Dreaming & Scheming

Making real the inner world.

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I have always been drawn to people who are able to pull the ideas, images, and thoughts out of their mind and into the world. 

Everything from the Kyle Abrahams Alvin Ailey piece, Are You In Your Feelings? piece, to TBC by Ama Lou to “Ella Baker and the Black Freedom Movement, to Sunrise, the youth movement that I’m organize with… were just concepts and configurations of ideas in people's heads, made real. 

It’s magical, no? To solidify in the material world, machinations of one’s inner world. 

Recently, I have been working to exhale a wild animal of an idea in my own inner world, waiting to be let loose and made real.

Why?

Before talking about what it is, [the wild animal], I wanna share a little bit about why this thing.

Organizing. First, I’m an organizer. I will be an organizer for the rest of my life. An organizer is someone who believes that when individuals (with their own dreams, desires & self-interests) are brought together into a collective, they are far more powerful than the institutions, governments, or corporations that claim to be powerful. There are union organizers, who organize workers in the workplace and fight for things like better working conditions and better wages. There are tenant organizers, who organize tenants in apartment buildings to push back against exploitative landlords.  There are youth organizers, like myself, who organize young people. 

As an organizer, I have begun to run into the limitations of the craft. While I dream of doing things like putting on massive Green New Deal demonstrations with enough people to fill out Madison Square Garden or the United Center, we have not. 

Artists. Artists have figured something out about people and how to organize them. They have a way of awakening the hearts of people; making them feel. Organizers could learn a thing or two from this. Both, on figuring out how artists do things like turn out millions to music festivals, billions to theaters around the world, or thousands to local exhibitions, and on organizing artists to use their platforms -- the bases of people already organized in their fanbase -- for more dramatic change in society. 

Healing. The other realization that I’ve come to the urgent need for healing & spiritual practices. I could be the best organizer, winning campaign after campaign, or the most influential artists, with millions, if not billions of followers, but if I did not have a moral & spiritual grounding, a way to process the trauma and limiting beliefs from my childhood, and roadmap to navigate the suffering that is inevitable as a human life, and way to live more in the present, I would be unable to do the work sustainably, over the long-term. 

So first things first; I think organizers, artists, and healers have a lot to learn from each other. And I think something powerful could come out of them being in more relationships and practice with each other. 

Second, I am a dreamer; I have a lot of visions about the world that I hope to make real. I did not always dream this expansively though. 

Growing up in Chicago, I was deeply frustrated about the world around me. It pissed me off to see the stark differences in the way Black people and white people lived, the stark difference in access to resources, whether it be good schools or good food or good jobs. Though angry, I didn’t believe there was anything to be done about it. (Which was even more frustrating for me!!) We live in a world with a set of rules and a set of people in power, and there was nothing to shift those things; I did not believe it was possible to change things. 

It wasn’t until I joined Sunrise that the belief began to disintegrate. I had joined Sunrise off the wave of momentum that was created when about a hundred young people sat in Nancy Pelosi’s office in the winter of 2018, demanding climate action from the Democratic Party. The group of young people, doing bold things, sparked a massive movement moment inside of Sunrise; hundreds if not thousands of young people were inspired to join, including myself. 

What that moment did for me, and what many moments and interactions across my timeline of being in the movement has done for me, is agitate me to think bigger, and think bolder, about what I demand of myself, of the people around me, and of society. To have the audacity  to ask for nothing less than what is necessary. 

After joining Sunrise, the scale of my dreams and visions grew in orders of magnitude. And in my body & bones, that expansion in dreaming has felt gratifying, liberating, and empowering. I know that to thrive in the midst of the many crises we’re up against,  we’re going to need way more people pushing up against the boundaries of what we believe is possible. And then having a community behind them to do it. 

What. 

So with that. The what. The vision.

To build towards a cultural, political, and spiritual revolution in society by bringing artists, healers, and organizers into community to connect, create, rest play and heal.

Who is at the core? 

• Black-led, multi-racial collective

• My sister and I have been core dreamers but many hands (friends) are helping shape it!! 

The foundations, who is the audience: 

• Organizers & movement builders: Those committed to transforming social structures and institutions to achieve collective liberation (e.g., organizers, activists) 

• Artists: Those committed to using art as a means for cultural revolution in society (e.g., dancers, painters, writers, filmmakers, photographers, musicians) 

• Healers: Those committed to the health, wellness, and spiritual development of the individual and collective (e.g., farmers, cooks, healing practitioners, yoga and meditation teachers) 

Our core values? 

• Liberation & social justice: Commitment to re-imagining a new world, to creating movements and art that work to liberate and free all people

• Creativity, play, healing: Commitment to personal transformation, to moving through blocks that get in the way of our self-actualization; a commitment to presence, mindfulness, and full embodiment of all we aspire to be; a commitment to play, laugher, rest, fun, joy 

• Community & collective: Commitment to building relationships,  and strengthening the collective; deep understanding that what we can do collectively is far more powerful than what any one of us could do alone 

• Spiritual ecology: Commitment to grounding in the foundational role the Earth and planet play in one’s spiritual development; we come back to nature to come back to ourselves.

• Vision & boldness: Community for people to bring their wildest ideas & visions to life 

What type of programming?

• Retreats (free or pay-what-you-can scale) 

• Daylong: Theme around looking into past & stories on moments brought into work dong, present & grounding in body, and future & visioning and dreaming about what’s possible and sharing, in collective, the challenges getting in the way 

• Weekend retreat: Overnight experiences, think adult summer camp vibes, where people can to connect, rest, create, swim in beautiful lakes, dance & play, and think & dream big about their crafts

• Membership Model (pay-what-you-can scale) 

• Online offerings include quarterly member online gatherings, member-led workshops, connection & network,  etc.) 

• Physical space 

• Retreat center, has alternative house, gallery space, place to rest, relax, create 

So. Back to the opening. I’m beginning to make this dream real inside of me, a seed that has taken root over the past ten years of my life (from working on urban farms, to swimming in ocean with sharks, to environmental summer camps for Black youth in Chicago to senior thesis on food apartheid to creating wellness offerings for Black communities in Chicago to joining Sunrise & being deep in movement building), with different experiences leading me to this point.

I don't yet fully know how we’ll bring this thing, in its totality, to life, but I know that we will. 

I’ve been reading The Creative Act: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin, and so will leave you with this quote:

“Ultimately, your desire to create must be greater than your fear of it.” 

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Jump.

On swimming with sharks, interbeing, and an unrelenting love of paradise.

It was July, smack dab in the middle of a scorching summer in the Bahamas. I had been living on a boat, the RV Coral Reef II, for a week or so with ten other high schoolers from across Illinois. 

Our days were filled activities a young aspiring marine biologist could only dream of. We snorkeled, several times a day, and even got to do a nighttime snorkel through the SS Sapona shipwreck. We conducted marine research, collecting water samples and studying the different Caribbean reef fish, learning the difference between a Queen Angelfish, a Sergeant Major, a Rock Beauty and a Blue Tang. We explored several of the smaller islands throughout the Bahamas, traipsing around land so foreign and unfamiliar to the flat planes (Illinois) we were used to back home. We also got to know each other deeply, talking about the many things 16 and 17 years old stuck on a boat in the Caribbean would talk about. 

One day, during the middle of our trip, our captain, Captain Dave, anchored the ship and gathered us near the front of the boat. As we got settled, he shared a few facts about the site we’d just anchored at. The site, Triangle Rocks, was a place boaters typically came to chum the water. “Because of this,” he says, “it’s common to see sharks. It’ll also be where we’re snorkeling for the day.” 

Uh. My heart began to race. 

Because. What I haven’t told you yet is that I had been obsessed with sharks. My fascination with sharks grew after watching the Deep Blue Sea for the first time with my father in the basement of our home. Every summer, I curled up on the couch to tune into Shark Week, where I glared amazed at episodes of MythBusters, at stories on shark attacks, and of documentaries about the Great White Shark. Later, in high school, I found a job during the school year at the Shedd Aquarium, where, on my breaks, I’d often sit mesmerized, meditating with the sharks in the background, taking in their mysteriousness, their grace and their power.

I eventually signed up for a High School Marine Biology Program through the Shedd, a 3-week program where high schoolers spend a week in the Bahamas, acting out and living out their dream of being marine biologists. It was a dream of mine, and I specifically wanted to study sharks.

So yes, I had a deep penchant for sharks. But while I loved sharks… I wasn’t so sure I was ready to get in the ocean with them. This defied all logic; sharks were to be stared at on the TV screen, where I sat comfortably on my couch. They were to be admired from afar through thick glass in an exhibit, not seen and experienced up so closely. 

Also, what in the hell were my parents going to think?! Did we sign a waiver for this? 

Back on the boat, as we lathered SPF40 sunscreen across our bodies, grabbed our snorkeling gear, and headed to the stern of the boat, I searched the faces of my friends for any fear or anxiety; I saw none. 

I sat down to put on my snorkeling fins and that's where the real fear began to sink in. I saw a snapshot of the Chicago news back home, blaring “Chicago girl pulled to the depths of the sea by a Caribbean Reef shark.” I imagined the devastated faces of my parents and family; of all the ways to lose a child, especially a child from the South Side of Chicago, getting eaten by sharks was not one of them. 

Fear consumed me, ate me alive sitting at the back of the boat. But also, another force taunted me. Because if it were true, if I really loved sharks as much as I said I did, I would do it. When else would get an opportunity like this? To see these species I'd admired for so long, up close. I would have to push past the fears, push beyond the ancestral warning bells designed to keep me safe, and I’d have to jump.

And so I did.

The sound in my ears began to shift, becoming more muffled, as I slipped into the water. I began to feel the current of the waves pushing me back and forth. A fogginess arose in my goggles, blurring the view and a mini panic seeped in because if I couldn’t see, I couldn’t survive in an ocean full of sharks. I quickly figured it out, clearing out the fog with some spit, as we were trained to do. 

As I got settled, I looked down into the water, and not 20 feet below me, was a small gray shark, careening through the water with the gracefulness of a ballerina. I looked over to my right, to my left; in the background sat an expansive and vibrant reef, with a touch of coral bleaching, and all I can see were gray bodies torpedoing through the water. 

My fear and anxiety slowly began to fade and another feeling took over; one of awe. Of euphoria. The ecosystem as a whole came into focus — the coral, the jellyfish invisible to the eye, the other Caribbean fish that call the reef home — and I felt an intense oneness with all life in that ocean. If the gates of heavens had opened and downloaded the most simple and pure feelings of interbeing, of interconnectedness with all things on life into my body, that moment was it.

***

After that experience out there in the water with the sharks, I desperately sought out more moments that would thrust me back into what I felt out there in the Bahamas. During my freshman year of college, I spent five weeks in Hawaii, traveling across the Hawaiian islands, learning about the people and history of the different Hawaiian islands. I traveled to National Parks in Costa Rica, explored volcanoes in Nicaragua. I went swimming with bioluminescence in Halong Bay, Vietnam, I explored the trails and waterfalls in the Caribbean island, Dominica. And I have many other journeys ahead, all motivated by a desire to micro-dose hits of this planet we call home. Hits that make me feel small, but in the best way possible. Hits that make me feely deeply connected to all beings and all life. Hits that leave me feeling inspired and invigorated.

Each of these moments helped me reconnect with a source of energy, the pulse of life, and helped remind me of how bountiful this paradise on Earth we live on is, despite the tragedy and devastation we see so often play out in front of us. 

A quote, but one of my favorite Buddhists, says,

“The world is not a problem to be solved; it is a living being to which we belong. The world is part of our own self and we are a part of its suffering wholeness. Until we go to the root of our image of separateness, there can be no healing. And the deepest part of our separateness from creation lies in our forgetfulness of its sacred nature, which is also our own sacred nature.” - Thích Nhất Hạnh, Spiritual Ecology: The Cry of the Earth

Especially during a time when the environmental movement, with valid reason, has left out a lot of the Earth/environmental/conservation framing (the polar bear climate narratives and Sierra Club’s of the world get a bad rap), I came to this work initially because of my deep reverence for nature. I’m afraid of what waits, for the species, for the oceans, for the forest, on the other side of a changing climate.

Also. There are times when I’m completely overrun by feelings of immense fear. Times when I am unable to overcome or navigate my worries. And I come back to this story, as a reminder of the courage that lives inside of me. That I have been, and can be, brave. That I can jump.

The work I do at present, work of organizing around climate justice and fighting to protect the planet, stems from that moment out there in the water. That moment of pushing past my fears, jumping into the unknowns of the ocean, and swimming with sharks. 

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Heaven on Earth is a Place in My Mind

Please try to go
to hell frequently
because you will
find the light there

yes yes — please
try to kiss the ideas
that you find there
yes yes — please

try to get that
it is the center
of the universe
yes yes — please

Excerpt from CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE by Hannah Emerson

After laying for what felt like hours, I turned over my phone to look at the clock; 3:47 am. 

It was on this day, the 120th-ish day of the months-long battle with my sleep, that I finally broke. 

4 hours later, I was on a plane to Chicago. 

Several minutes after that, I decided I couldn't go back to Brooklyn. It was time to come home. 

Because. Several months prior, I’d decided to pack up my things and move to NYC. There, I went through one of the most hellish periods of my life.

***

Before I pull you into the depths of my neurosis in the summer of 2022, it feels important to contextualize what was happening during the summer of 2020 through the summer of 2022. George Floyd had been brutally murdered by Derek Chauvin in Minneapolis, MN; that murder ignited a rage in the form of protests all across the world. Before then, in March of 2020, a virus -- the coronavirus -- began making its way around the world, vaulting the doors of society shut. And then in the background of all of this, alarm bells began sounding about the urgency of the climate crisis; these alarm bells led me to the Sunrise hub in Chicago, where I began volunteering before I joined staff full-time in January of 2020.

That summer, my mind dipped into a sadness, an emptiness, I’d never experienced before. Unsure of how to cope, I ran to nature, to the lake, to parks across Chicago, in hopes of nurturing my spirit back to life.

Eventually, around the fall, those feelings and the heaviness that surrounded me, began to fade. I found joy in organizing again, in going out with friends, and my excitement for escaping to roller skate at The Rink after work returned. And though I was back to myself, I was not off the hook.

The summer of 2020 initiated a rhythm pattern of summer blues… and two years later, the summer of 2022 would be the worst of it.

Leading up to that summer, in December, I had gotten into a car accident off Lake Shore Drive. A stolen car that was being chased by the police, hit me, flipped over, and caught on fire. Though my car had only a small dent in the back, my nervous system, for months after, was completely disregulated.

My job was also going through a massive layoff process. And in the midst of these events, despite the chaos around me, I stubbornly chose to move to NYC.

So yeah. I arrived at the door step of the summer of 2022 a mess, with a flurry of grueling symptoms manifesting themselves within me, which included:

Anhedonia. By definition, “the lack of interest, enjoyment or pleasure from life's experiences.” Any presence of joy? Pleasure in Sunrise, in hobbies, in reading, in hanging with friends? None. 

Insomnia. Grueling nights of an intense inability to slip into a deep, dark state of unconsciousness. Breakdowns in the darkness of the night. Pleading and crying for help on the phone with parents. Heaviness in the back of the eyes from the lack of rest.  

Loneliness. A desire to cocoon oneself, to hide, to resist connection, to resist being witnessed.

Purposelessness. The inability to see or feel any hope for the future. A time when my dreams turned gray and much of my aspirations melted away; I could barely make it through a day.

And finally. 

Self-annihilation. A mind hell-bent on ruthlessly, like a shark out for blood, terrorizing its victim; me. A mind with a mind of its own. A record player of thoughts reminding me, on a loop, of my worthlessness, of my flaws, and of my immense inadequacies. 

In all of this, I did not know what to do. I had never experienced these feelings so intensely, let alone all at the same time. So I sought out help. 

I learned about the Dark Knight of the Soul, which put spiritual context to the suffering I was enduring. The Dark Knight of the Soul is a term used to describe what one could call a collapse of a perceived meaning in life…an eruption into your life of a deep sense of meaninglessness.  The inner state in some cases is very close to what is conventionally called depression.

I leaned on my friends and family, who let me sleep over so I didn’t have to battle with my insomnia alone. Who let me sit on their couch and cry… or sit and feel and say nothing at all. Who listened to me, helped feed me when I could barely find the energy to do so myself, and who helped me process what was happening inside of my mind and body, without judgment.

I read stories about other humans who had felt the things I’d felt. It was in the stories of Demar DeRozen, a basketball player for the Bulls, who shared his experiences with depression. “We all got feelings...all of that. Sometimes...it gets the best of you, where times everything in the whole world’s on top of you.” he says. 

In the stories of Maria Isabel, who opened a blog piece on Gurls Talk with the quote, “Hi. My name is María Isabel. I’m an R&B singer/songwriter and I struggle with depression and anxiety…I don’t know when exactly I started feeling it, some days I think I must’ve been born with it, but I do know that in high school I started needing more time off, more “me days” than ever before… Sad became my new normal. I felt empty, like I had a hole in the center of me, but I couldn’t tell anyone, because I didn’t know why I felt the way that I did. 

No one around me was talking about any illness that couldn’t be seen or detected on a hospital screen. I tried so hard to be happy and act normally but it left me so drained I could barely find the strength to get dressed in the morning. Everyday became about making it to the end of the day… All I could think was, life isn’t supposed to be this hard. I felt like I could barely function on such a basic level and if that was the case, how could I deserve to be here? How could I want to be?” she wrote. 

Or in the stories of Rafael Nadal, one of my favorite tennis players, who describes, in his book Rafa, his own mental health challenges as he reckoned with an injury that nearly ruined his tennis career. “I was depressed, lacking enthusiasm. On the surface I remained a tennis-playing automaton, but the man inside had lost all love of life. My team members were at a loss how to react to the gloom that descended on me.”

I read books on the brain and mind; I learned, in The End of Mental Illness by Daniel G. Amen, the ways in which trauma, pollution, and many other things, affect our brain; that mental illness is connected to brain health. That sometimes, it’s not what's wrong with you, but what happened to your brain, that is the problem. And that there are solutions, and ways to heal your brain to heal your mind. 

In finding solace in the stories of people I admire, in seeking support from friends & family, and in books that are grounded in the science of the brain and mental health, I began to stop associating with my depression so intensely. I was not bad, something was not wrong with me, and I was not broken. 

I was simply a human, with a mind that had been hurt and impacted in a few ways, some incredibly traumatic, but in spite of that, I could heal. I could feel better, feel hope, feel life within myself, feel joy again. And contrary to what my mind might convince me, this hell I was in was not permanent.

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At present, I’m still trying to reckon with the purpose of my suffering. I have let go of trying to understand why the mood in my mind dips during the summer and instead have sought to build a stronger, more compassionate relationship with the suffering I experience.

The two quotes below have been immensely helpful in this: 

“Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible in us be found.” - Pema Chodron 

“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own soul. One does not not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making darkness conscious.” - Carl Jung 

It is in the human condition to seek comfort and pleasure; anything that is unpleasant and discomforting, we avoid. We want to feel good. We pursue things, day in and day out (sex, money, relationships, food, social media), that fire off dopamine in our brains. But life is not always good. People around us die. People around us leave us. We lose our jobs. We get rejected. To live is to suffer, to feel pain, in spite of the blinders we put on to avoid that truth. 

I’m learning to welcome the pain and discomfort these days. If it weren’t for any of the challenges and struggles in my life, including the ones I have with my own mind at times, I wouldn't have the depth of experience, of compassion for others, of wisdom, that I have. Through every battle, I have become a bit more indestructible.

In befriending my suffering, I’ve also begun to gain a clearer sense of its purpose; that my pain & suffering are one and the same with the capacity I had to feel love, peace and joy. To know deeply that my suffering gives texture and richness to the highs of life. (Pulled from a scene in Ginny and Georgia.) 

At present, I feel a vibrancy and energy for life, a deep clarity on my purpose, than at any other point in my life. I stayed in NYC! I did not give up and move back home. I can sleep deeply! And I’m alive. (And this may not be true in a few months, as the summer approaches, but I’m becoming ok with that.)

At times I still feel afraid. Because these days, spiders no longer terrify me. My fear of the dark, my fear of socializing or walking into unknown parties or events, even my fear of love & relationships, no longer give me anxiety, as they did when I was younger. But I am learning to navigate the fear I have around what my mind is capable of; given its power, its enigma, and the simple fact that at times, I can’t control it. I can’t control this mind that has pulled me into immense anxiety, depression, panic, insomnia, etc. Instead of fear, I’m trying to remain present to what is, and not what will be.

And so. I’m learning to reckon with the fact that at times, hell on earth is a place in my mind. But at times, it is also heaven. 

A Vision for a Revolutionary Retreat Center for Organizers, Artists and Healers

I’m a dreamer. I have a lot I want to do in my lifetime. (Ya know, grow a mass youth movement, win the Green New Deal, run a government agency implementing the GND, travel to every continent, get better at tennis. You know, all the things.) And maybe you, too, have dreams?

For me, those dreams are punctuated with a lot of fear. What if I fail? What if I can’t do it? What will people think? 

Years of dreaming and scheming, of health & wellness projects with friends, of summer internships on urban farms, of organizing in a youth climate movement, have brought me to a place where I’m ready to move through my own fears, and make those dreams a reality.

So sharing a bit of my dream with you.

THE VISION

Key Words: Community, Collective, Organizing & Movement Building, Art, Spiritual Ecology, Healing & Wellness, Art 

Imagine it’s the year 2028. The camera pans into a retreat center, collective & community right outside of Chicago or in Upstate New York. It’s a one stop shop for movement builders, creatives, healers and artists to do work to build towards a revolutionary future, where people and the planet can thrive. 

You have organizers meeting and planning campaigns and strategies to take over the US government through running a national campaign to defund the military and fund the Green New Deal. You have artists (dancers, painters, photographers) coming together to plan exhibitions in 6 cities across the country, telling the story of the climate crisis through their mediums (e.g., paintings, film, photography, etc.) You have healers brainstorming ways to use yoga, somatics, and therapy to address needs of young people coming up in society plagued with disasters, from pandemics to violence to climate disasters. You have urban farmers on site growing an abundance of produce, that our community chefs turn into nourishing meals, to serve the entire community. 

And behind the scenes of all of this, there’s a wellness center where people in the community can get massages & facials, a meditation and yoga studio, a pool in summer for people to take a break and have fun, tennis courts, basketball courts, and soccer fields where folks can get active, a cafe and smoothie shop where folks talk and plot and brainstorm and create. (Oh, and the architecture & design of the place is biophilic in nature, and runs on 100% renewable energy.) 

A place to retreat. A place to create. A place to reimagine. A community teeming with people, all committed to building towards a cultural, political, and societal revolution, creating a future where people and the planet can thrive. 

WHERE YOU FIT IN

I’m currently in a BIPOC Youth Justice & Healing Fellowship (ByJAH), and am getting support to build out Phase I of this vision, which is what I want to pitch you on. (If you want to get a sense of the entire vision, see the PHASES section below!) 

You are someone who I’ve seen be deeply committed to your craft, and following passion. Whether you’re an organizer, an artist, an earthworker (e.g., urban farmer, cook, etc.), I don’t think I can build this powerful collective & retreat community without you.

In June of 2023, I’m planning to host a day-long retreat with friends I think may want to have a hand in turning this vision into reality. The retreat goals are:

• Foster deep community and connection amongst young people

• Create container for folks to deepen within their own self, healing, mindful practices

• Create space to vision and image the future, through the lens of climate & individuals (e.g., organizer, dancer, artist, healer, etc.) 

• Make ask folks join core team to help vision how to make this reality 

So will you join me? 

Before you say yes, a few questions for you to think about:

• Do you feel called to create and build intentional community? Do you want to connect with other people? 

• Do you believe in social justice? In using your medium (art, organizing, healing, etc.) to transform people and society?

If you said yes to any of these things, I encourage you to join me in NYC in the spring/summer! 

Also. The hope isn’t that you particularly want to take responsibility for implementing this vision. 

Mostly, I want to 1.) Pick your brain and really understand what you (as an artist, organizer, earthworker, or healer) best need so that you have the time, support and capacity to really hone your craft and 2.) Begin to identify people who do want to help implement this vision. 3.) Bring some really cool people I know together, and see what comes out of that!

So again, if interested and excited to help envision, sign up form here to get more info on the April retreat. 

PHASES 

• Phase 1: Launch with a retreat in summer/fall 2023 (2023)

• Phase 2: Launch core team, meet for 2-3 retreats over course of a year (2023-2024)

• Phase 3: Launch implementation team (2024)

• Phase 4: Break ground, build retreat center (2024 - 2028)

• Phase 5: Open retreat center to the public (2027 - 2028)

Is love worth it?

In moments of heartbreak, I often have to ask myself. Is love worth it? 

Because I’m going to be honest with you. Besides spiders and insomnia, there is nothing I fear more than love. 

Because. It has often felt that the intensity and capacity with which I have to love equally matches the intensity and capacity I have, as a result, suffered. 

I’ll start with my love of organizing. (Hah I’m not going where you think I’m going. But trust me, I’ll get there.) I started organizing in 2019 with Sunrise, a youth led climate movement fighting to stop climate change and create millions of good jobs.

Joining Sunrise transformed my life. I have never felt more agency as a human, more connected, more reflective, more vulnerable or more powerful. In a lot of ways, joining Sunrise felt a lot like falling in love for the first time. 

But love can be a roller coaster, and I have had my heart broken many times by this movement. I could write whole novels about firings, Twitter drama and attacks on my character, organization layoffs, organization conflict, movement conflict, interpersonal conflict, Buzzfeed articles, etc. 

How could this thing I love, so deeply, also become one of the core sources of my suffering? The core source of most of the burnout and depression I’ve experienced in my mid twenties? 

So. 

I have had my heartbroken many times by organizing. I’ve also had my heartbroken by love. 

I have been heart FUCKING broken only once in my life. (Throw in some small L’s along the way, but nothing like this.) It was devastating. I have never experienced a pain more intense than heartbreak. An intensity of sadness and grieving that really does a number on you. To see. The insane amount of water that can come from a humans eyes while crying. To see. A person you felt so deeply for in every way, weeks and months later, choose someone else. To feel delusional, craving and desiring and wanting someone that does not want you. 

It is really fucking hard and at the time, I did not think I was cut out for that shit. 

And not only had I wrestled with my own challenges with love, but I saw heartbroken and hurt people EVERYWHERE. And I mean everywhere. In the saddest of ballads in R&B songs, in rappers spitting fuck bitches get money, in the emotional unavailability of men I’ve desired, and in my own parents. 

And after all of these interactions, I keep coming back to this question. If I (or you or we) are to suffer this much, to avoid it this much, is love worth it? 

Is love really worth it? 

And there’s a quote that I heard once during a meditation retreat that has consistently steered me back to what I hope to be true.  

“An open heart never breaks.” 

This quote resonated so deeply with me because it felt incredibly antithetical to my own instincts. Instincts that pushed me to close myself out of fear, out of protection. 

And in sitting with this quote, it inspired me to never give up on the beauty and power of what’s on the other side of love. To reframe my fear. To go against what felt natural. To open myself to new opportunities, work, to love, even if it might crush me in the end

And so. Is love worth if? 

I get flashbacks. To the moments falling in love for the first time with organizing. Marching through the streets of Detroit during the 2019 DNC Debates, demanding to make Detroit the engine of the Green New Deal, and reeling from the high I felt for days after. Moments sitting at retreats with friends and teammates strategizing about what it was going to take to deliver a death blow to the fossil fuel industry and win massive climate legislation for this country. Moments deep in conversations, filled with the intimacy and the type of vulnerability that come with opening yourself, fully, to someone. 

And so… is love worth it? 

I’d like to try and make it so.

This 5'2 kid just wants to wander in peace.

“The ability for us to live and walk down the street without being afraid of being physically, sexually, or mentally assaulted is possible.” - Charlene Carruthers

And still… that day has yet to come. 

I could tell you about that one time. 

You’re walking home one night with friends after jerk chicken and rum punch, when two men, driving in a baby blue convertible, pull over to drunkenly shout at you all. When you ignore them (isn’t this what you’re taught to do?), the driver slows down. And then the men make an abrupt turn into the alleyway you would have, seconds later crossed, if they weren’t blocking your path. You especially are pissed. Are you fucking serious? you shout, ready to tear apart the car and the men who think this is okay. And your friend, visiting from out of town, and so visibly disturbed by the scene, whispers softly, Let’s just go, let’s just go. And you go, reckoning firmly with the history of women who stood up for themselves and are no longer alive because of it.

(And several days later, you will step into the elevator in your apartment building to see one of the men who sat in the passenger seat, standing there with his dog. And you will replay the Resident Evil laser scene (I will never forget this cinematic moment) and want to tear him to shreds. But instead, you feel powerless. Even more powerless than you felt outside. Unlike him, you are able to control yourself. 

I could tell you about that other time. 

Same summer, same route home, instead this time, alone, two drunk men lounging around the CTA bus stop off 55th. Their focus suddenly locks onto you like a target (with laser precision), and they begin shouting for your attention. Hey, hey, HEYYYYY, one of the men roared. (And yes, I say roar, because they were acting like fucking animals.) You ignoring their demands ignite a volley of Hey bitch, answer me, ANSWER ME. And your heart sinks; can a bitch make it home without being bothered? Your legs (and intuition) hastily carry you away despite the blood boiling within you to correct the injustices committed against your personal liberty to fucking BE. 

I could tell you about that other time. 

In January, before the pandemic hit, walking down one of the busiest and most visible streets of Chicago, down State Street near Depaul. And yet again, a man has again chosen you as prey. It always starts with Hey as the hook. And you always respond by ignoring (because you were taught to ignore them. To keep moving. But apparently, no one has taught men that it’s not okay to openly demonize, harass, and abuse women), by continuing to walk. And this time, he responds, Don’t you hear me fucking talking to you again bitch? 

And something snaps inside of you.

You are tired. You are tired of the fear. The fear of walking and running and wandering outside, because a man can’t control his mouth. Of the crippling anxiety you get sitting too long at red lights next to cars with men with windows rolled down. Of the incessant need to immediately lock public bathroom doors after yourself. Of the well of nerves you sit with each night unlocking the door and entering your home, because a family member, a friend, a favorite author, was attacked by men, strangers, and you could be too. You are tired of living in fear.

You are tired of protecting the ego of men, placing their comfort and reassurance over your own desire for safety and security. 

All of that baggage forces you to snap. 

What did you fucking say?! Would you talk to your mother that way? You are dis-res-pecting ME! And you let it out. And he continues as men continue, hating you and your rejection of him, for reasons beyond you. And as you look to the eyes of passerbyers for help, for reassurance, to be seen (as human) in a way that this man does not, you find nothing. And so, as always, you have to keep walking. Walking away. 

I could tell you that this only scraps the surface of times. 

But really, I share this. Because we don’t often think (enough) about the invisible ways that oppression and violence seep into our lives and limit our ability to be free. That I can’t take a walk alone, can’t sit at the lake alone, can’t be a woman navigating the world alone, without fear. 

We are forever imprisoned by the trauma of unhealed men, until men set their eyes on the target of dismantling toxic masculinity (and the patriarchy) with the laser focus they have on diminishing my humanity as a woman. Until they do the fucking work on themselves… we are not free. 

I am not free. We are not free. Until women no longer live in this intricate balance expending energy dodging the attacks of men. You, me, we us, all play a role in upholding violence against women… how you talk to your daughters, how you raise your sons, how you stand up for other women, young girls, femmes, etc. on the street who face abuse and assault…each moment is an opportunity to practice and unlock a liberatory future, one free of violence committed against women. One free of violence committed against anyone.

If anything came of the pandemic. (Bare with me.) By being forced inside, more than I normally was, I was at least spared the incessant guerilla attacks from disturbed men on my personal freedom as a young woman. (You can count my dads fussing if there was a single dish in the sink as annoyingly disruptive, but not anywhere close to the level of harassment I have experienced on the street.) 

And so. After some reflection during this pandemic, how can we take more responsibility for creating environments where all people (not just me, this 5’2 kid who wants to wander in peace) can explore, roam, adventure, meander… in peace? Where I can stroll along the lake, alone, without fear of being attacked or snatched? Where I can roam the streets at 1 am without my father chastising me because he knows all the dangerous and sick things people do this time of night? Where I am free without fear to take a bus or a train late late, because I love the solitude, or love the way the darkness and night and city quiet looks from this view?

I ask. Because I’ve come to think that I deserve, have a right, to accessing, to touching, to tasting, this type of freedom during my lifetime.

P.S. I wrote this years ago, during the pandemic.